His comment was, Very interesting. In the prize ring, this would be called leading with the chin. That is the miracle of it. Treat him, when you can, as though he had pneumonia. Your desire to protect him should not cause you to lie to people when they have a right to know were he is and what he is doing. Written by Dale K, it contains a rewritten version of the first 164 pages of the Big Book. If you concede that your employee is ill, can he be forgiven for what he has done in the past? We do talk about each other a great deal, but we almost invariably temper such talk by a spirit of love and tolerance. Quicksand stretched around me in all directions. He left us a note saying you were the best boss he ever had, and that you were not to blame in any way.. His sanity returned and he thanked God. In meditation, we ask God what we should do about each specific matter. Select the book genre. It may be slowing him up mentally and physically, but he does not see it. This is particularly true of women. Except in a few rare cases, neither he nor any other human being can provide such a defense. I felt I had every right to be self-confident, that it would be only a matter of exercising my will power and keeping on guard. It was the usual situation: home in jeopardy, wife ill, children distracted, bills in arrears and standing damaged. If he does not, you will probably not have long to wait. From it stem all forms of spiritual disease, for we have been not only mentally and physically ill, we have been spiritually sick. My ideas about miracles were drastically revised right then. Even so has God restored us all to our right minds. What seemed at first a flimsy reed, has proved to be the loving and powerful hand of God. Available spacing options: single spaced, 1.5, double spaced. We have been unselfish and self- sacrificing. You may be unable to do so, no matter how hard you try. But we could not. Everyone spent in thousands and chattered in millions. Though there may be justifiable exceptions, and though we wish to lay down no rule of any sort, we have often found this the best course to take. This is the one he likes his fellows to see. We wouldnt treat sick people that way. Flash fiction is anything from The app also contains a Sobriety Calendar where you can enter your sobriety date and see how many years/months/days you currently have. There was loud talk in the jazz places uptown. I failed to persuade my broker friends to send me out looking over factories and managements, but my wife and I decided to go anyway. Do I now believe, or am I even willing to believe, that there is a Power greater than myself ? As soon as a man can say that he does believe, or is willing to believe, we emphatically assure him that he is on his way. There are many helpful books also. Call on him while he is still jittery. I use Book Antiqua 11 for regular books, and 16 points for large print. So our troubles, we think, are basically of our own making. The show doesnt come off very well. I thought of my poor wife. Our experience shows that this is not necessarily so. For when harboring such feelings we shut ourselves off from the sunlight of the Spirit. Of course he couldnt drink, but why not sit hopefully at a table, a bottle of ginger ale before him? We were now at Step Three. He would probably be insulted if he were called an alcoholic. Then we were severely criticized by our husbands parents for desertion. Being possessed of a spiritual experience, the alcoholic will find he has much in common with these people, though he may differ with them on many matters. The number of pages changes depending on the number of words, the font and the font size. You should not hesitate to visit the most sordid spot on earth on such an errand. If he does not want to stop drinking, dont waste time trying to persuade him. Will he take every necessary step, submit to anything to get well, to stop drinking forever? Perhaps you are not acquainted with any drinkers who want to recover. Now, this house will hardly accommodate its weekly visitors, for they number sixty or eighty as a rule. I woke up. If it is a happy occasion, try to increase the pleasure of those there; if a business occasion, go and attend to your business enthusiastically. Since the home has suffered more than anything else, it is well that a man exert himself there. There could be no love in such persons, we thought. We have shown how we got out from under. Paragraph numbers along side the text for easy reference. With this attitude you cannot fail. I just thought I would get a sandwich. In nine cases out of ten the unexpected happens. Wherever men are gathered together in business there will be rivalries and, arising out of these, a certain amount of office politics. We were prepared to look at it from an entirely different angle. In the first flush of spiritual experience they forgave each other and drew closer together. It displays the text of the first 164 pages of the book "Alcoholics Anonymous." He suffered horribly from his sprees, but it seemed as if nothing could be done for him. If he is in a serious mood dwell on the troubles liquor has caused you, being careful not to moralize or lecture. By the time I had completed the course, I knew the law was not for me. Remember they are very ill. Life will take on new meaning. Also, references to a Higher Power are often couched in Christian terms. When working with a man and his family, you should take care not to participate in their quarrels. Then we resolutely turn our thoughts to someone we can help. Sweet relationships are dead. They criticize, pointing out how he is falling down on his spiritual program. Let the alcoholic continue his program day by day. If we have no such complication, there is plenty we should do at home. You will no longer be self-conscious or feel that you must apologize as though your husband were a weak character. If you take it, your past will be forgotten and the fact that you went away for treatment will not be mentioned. He would do anything, he said, but that. We cannot answer the riddle. In another case, an alcoholic was sent to a hospital for treatment. Faith without works was dead, he said. Some people have recovered from alcoholism, though, and the Big Book offers a suggested outline that seems to help a few. We had to have Gods help. He will tell you he is misunderstood. Instead of treating the family as he should, he may retreat further into himself and feel he has spiritual justification for so doing. Frequently, you have felt obliged to tell your husbands employer and his friends that he was sick, when as a matter of fact he was tight. I had eaten there many times during the months I was sober. And who could comprehend a Supreme Being anyhow? Sometimes the man we are calling upon admits his own fault, so feuds of years standing melt away in an hour. At the start, this was all we needed to commence spiritual growth, to effect our first conscious relation with God as we understood Him. Posted on . The average reader will spend 9 hours and 36 minutes reading this book at 250 WPM (words per minute). Our activities in behalf of women who drink are on the increase. Book Description Known as the Big Book the basic text of Alcoholics Anonymous has helped millions of people worldwide get and stay sober since the first edition appeared in 1939. This applies, too, to other spiritual expressions which you find in this book. They took inventory all right, but hung on to some of the worst items in stock. What was that but a sort of faith? But just underneath there is deadly earnestness. Unfortunately a lot of prejudice exists. If that is so we are sorry, for we ourselves dont always care for people who lecture us. We grow by our willingness to face and rectify errors and convert them into assets. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all. Logic is great stuff. This all happened years ago. We made it when we took inventory. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs. No wonder an alcoholic is strangely irrational. The publication of this book has not been authorized or endorsed by, and does not imply affilia-tion with Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc. or the General Service Office of Alcoholics Anonymous. If common words were not discarded, the The web site uses a less-restrictive set of common words than the printed book. The practical answer is that since these things have happened among us, they can happen with you. In our personal stories you will find a wide variation in the way each teller approaches and conceives of the Power which is greater than himself. Bills Story. So two bottles, and-oblivion. In some cases it will, and in others it may not. When the man is presented with this volume it is best that no one tell him he must abide by its suggestions. But cheer up, something like half of us thought we were atheists or agnostics. Have we skimped on the cement put into the foundation? Being intrigued, however, he invited our friend to his home. My brother-in-law is a physician, and through his kindness and that of my mother I was placed in a nationally-known hospital for the mental and physical rehabilitation of alcoholics. 1,618 ratings63 reviews. It relieved me somewhat to learn that in alcoholics the will is amazingly weakened when it comes to combating liquor, though it often remains strong in other respects. He becomes angry, indignant, self-pitying. Were nothing left but pure reason, it wouldnt be life. Tell him that if he wants to get well you will do anything to help. It will not take long for you to decide, if you are honest with yourself about it. We know our friend is like a boy whistling in the dark to keep up his spirits. For faith in a Power greater than ourselves, and miraculous demonstrations of that power in human lives, are facts as old as man himself. Though they knew they must help other alcoholics if they would remain sober, that motive became secondary. We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it. Some men have been so impaired by alcohol that they cannot stop. chapters. One of our Fellowship failed entirely with his first half dozen prospects. We heard no more of Fred for a while. I've heard from many newcomers and in several chat rooms where people say their sponsors told them to only read the 1st 164 pages. God has either removed your husbands liquor problem or He has not. They said God made these things possible, and we only smiled. He need not, and often should not show it to his alcoholic prospect. There were flights from city to country and back, as my wife and I sought escape. Over and over, he would say: Thats me. If your husband is otherwise a normal individual, your chances are good at this stage. After all, had he not been sober six months now? Many times we talk to a new man and watch his hope rise as we discuss his alcoholic problems and explain our fellowship. We often need it to carry green recruits through a severe hangover Some of us still serve it to our friends provided they are not alcoholic. 4.61. How heartbreaking was this discovery; how cruel to be told they understood our men as we did not! Treatment seemed wise, for I showed signs of delirium tremens. We have to be. We shouldnt be shy on this matter of prayer. We are not sure why, once a certain point is reached, little can be done for him. Available in black or burgundy leather. Young people may be encouraged by this mans experience to think that they can stop, as he did, on their own will power. A.A. Big Book (164 Pages) Big Book Stories Edition 1; Big Book Stories Edition 2; Mel B's Library; Dick B.'s Library; . Though you may be able to stop for a considerable period, you may yet be a potential alcoholic. Those words are simply not written down in the first 164 pages yet, our literature DOES have multiple references to the idea of taking the Steps. Do you use that word despite it was DELIBERATELY left out by Bill Wilson for a specific reason? I was finished and so were many friends. But some of us think we should not serve liquor to anyone. On the third day the lawyer gave his life to the care and direction of his Creator, and said he was perfectly willing to do anything necessary. Is he worth salvaging? Joykiller, nag, wet blanket-thats what they said. The first 164 pages Though there is no true references to the word sponsorship with in the first 164 page of the AA Big Book "Alcoholics Anonymous" it is mentioned in several of the personal stories that are contained later in the book. Established on such a footing we became less and less interested in ourselves, our little plans and designs. The great boom of the late twenties was seething and swelling. How can such a lack of proportion, of the ability to think straight, be called anything else? We discuss them with someone immediately and make amends quickly if we have harmed anyone. When the time for living together has come, it will be apparent to both parties. But you must be on guard not to embarrass or harm your husband. He hopes they will never see the light of day. We think this method of approach will accomplish several things. Arranging the best deal we can we let these people know we are sorry. The Big Book has given me that comfort and the push to move forward. 70 SEX - To sum up about sex: We pray for the right ideal, for guidance in each . Obviously. Talk about the conditions of body and mind which accompany it. When you have carefully explained to such people that he is a sick person, you will have created a new atmosphere. Yes, thats me, said the sick man, the very image. When drinking, or getting over a bout, an alcoholic, sometimes the model of honesty when normal, will do incredible things. Their young minds were impressionable while he was drinking. I ruthlessly faced my sins and became willing to have my new-found Friend take them away, root and branch. But why not? We have begun to comprehend their futility and their fatality. There is a good bit of travel between East and West and we foresee a great increase in this helpful interchange. I simply didnt know. Some of us sought out sordid places, hoping to find understanding companionship and approval. For example, consider the passage: "Common words are needed to keep the book to a reasonable size and an affordable cost. I also had the notion that I might find a customer for a car at this place, which was familiar for I had been going to it for years. We talked of intolerance, while we were intolerant ourselves. Maybe you have already been obliged to put him away. Rightly and naturally, we think well before we choose the person or persons with whom to take this intimate and confidential step. He should not be made a favorite. Firing such an individual may prove a blessing to him. We got this all down on paper and looked at it. He added that occasionally in the night a vague craving arose which would be satisfied by candy. After such an approach many take up their beds and walk again. Why was this? You will be handicapped if you arouse it. If we still cling to something we will not let go, we ask God to help us be willing. Big Book Studies are a great source of information to help enhance your recovery from Alcoholism. He made a beginning. Thus was our friends cornerstone fixed in place. His reaction may be one of enthusiasm. A firm attitude at this point has helped many of us. You ask, because many alcoholics, being warped and drugged, do not want to quit. . FOREWORD TO FIRST EDITION This is the Foreword as it appeared in the rst printing of the rst edition in 1939. You will learn the full meaning of Love thy neighbor as thyself.. You draw more and more into yourself and you think everyone is talking about conditions at your home. Pg.163: You forget that you have just now tapped a source of power so much greater than . That statement hit me hard. Though an alcoholic does not respond, there is no reason why you should neglect his family. I made a host of fair- weather friends. Let us tell you the rest of the conversation our friend had with his doctor. The principles we have set down are guides to progress. . There had been no real infidelity, for loyalty to my wife, helped at times by extreme drunkenness, kept me out of those scrapes. In the following chapter, there appears an explanation of alcoholism, as we understand it, then a chapter addressed to the agnostic. After a bit, he said, The way you fellows put this spiritual stuff makes sense. It would have been impressive heroics if he had walked up to the Judge and said, Here I am.. I remember I felt irritated that I had to be a salesman for a concern I once owned. Why this ready acceptance? I began to be jittery in the morning. I went back to the bar. A new life has been given us or, if you prefer, a design for living that really works. I saw I could not take so much as one drink. Burn the idea into the consciousness of every man that he can get well regardless of anyone. Some time passed, and confidence began to be replaced by cock-sureness. He told how he lived in constant worry about those who might find out about his alcoholism. Tommy Teds Carp Syndicate, There is an important exception to the foregoing. An illness of this sort-and we have come to believe it an illness-involves those about us in a way no other human sickness can. Why, he argued, should he lose the remainder of his business, only to bring still more suffering to his family by foolishly admitting his plight to people from whom he made his livelihood? (1939) The authorities were much concerned. If the family persists in criticism, this fallacy may take a still greater hold on father. He is a good salesman. God comes to most men gradually, but His impact on me was sudden and profound. If you are an alcoholic who wants to get over it, you may already be asking-What do I have to do?. More than that we cannot do; we have no right to go further. Some day we hope that Alcoholics Anonymous will help the public to a better realization of the gravity of the alcoholic problem, but we shall be of little use if our attitude is one of bitterness or hostility. Have we tried to make mortar without sand? The last few chapters of those pages, however, do become a bit more tedious to read (I think) because they have a certain datedness about them. These attempts to do the impossible have always failed. We become much more efficient. Then we have a certain type of hard drinker. Many of us have experienced dads elation. We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness. With it you can avert death and misery for them. To duplicate, with such backing, what we have accomplished is only a matter of willingness, patience and labor. On awakening let us think about the twenty-four hours ahead. It may be obscured by calamity, by pomp, by worship of other things, but in some form or other it is there. One object is to disclose damaged or unsalable goods, to get rid of them promptly and without regret. Although many in the A.A. Fellowship will say that there is more than one (1) way to work the A.A. 6-b. They were deeply religious people, much shocked by their sons refusal to have anything to do with the church. Seeing is believing to most families who have lived with a drinker. Here no specific rule can be given. Tell him some of the interesting stories you have read. Our hope is that many alcoholic men and women, desperately in need, will see these pages, and we believe that it is only by fully disclosing ourselves and our problems that they will be persuaded to say, Yes, I am one of them too; I must have this thing.. We asked ourselves why we had them. We hope it strikes home to thousands like him. Again, you should not crowd him. A 40,000 to 80,000-word memoir is around 150-265 . We took stock honestly. I remember having several more that night and plenty next morning. 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